"I'm no longer attracted to either gender much, but I am having strong romantic attractions for women, and no attractions for men" this coming from the guy that just last week was telling me what he thinks are the perfect characteristics for his future male lover to have. I know his parents are deeply religious and when he came out to them they sent him to years of counseling to hopefully "cure" him, but if all those years of therapy didn't change his sexuality then; why is it changed now? Could he just be searching for acceptance from his family? or possibly feel that if he remains gay God wont love him?
Then he continues to go on with that there is no correlation between sexual attraction and emotional attraction, "if you can find the emotional attraction in a person which gender they are does not matter"....this is where he looses me. Now I have a few girlfriends they will change in front of me give me a kiss on the cheek but you don't see me getting aroused by them just because I was emotionally attracted to them in the first place which made us friends. Personally what goes on in your head and in your pants are two way different things....(I'd be very interested to hear a counter arguement)
Now I can happily say I have never been raped or molested by either one of my parents and that I also have a good relationship with my parent of the same sex. So as he sits here telling me that all gays are gay because of these reasons I'm thinking to myself.....well I was never touched by someone at a young age and my dad and I get along great.......where to I tie in? "well they just have not found God".......well what about the gay's that don't believe in God?
Situations like this really makes me wonder how much does the perspective of homosexuals really have to do with "nature vs nurture". Are we born gay/lesbian or are we taught or forced into being gay/lesbian? my personal theory/ quote is "sexuality isn't just black and white, there are more shades of gray then there are black or white"
this has to be one of the most interesting blogs I've read so far. As far as your friend goes, he may be trying to get acceptance from his parents, but if he already came out he should try to help them maybe accept him little by little especially if they're really religious. He already did the hardest thing and came out, so the worst is over for him. As for the quote at the end, I agree 100 percent (: I think for the nature v. nurture thing, it could go both ways, but I think as time goes on you realize how you may have become homosexual, or why you are or something. I don't know, but I'm going to have to show my mom this blog XD lol, love it levi!
ReplyDeleteThis is really really interesting topic and really personal. i really dont understand how people can like the same sex, but i think that every person has the right to be open to either sex, and that they shouldn't be forced to be cured!
ReplyDeleteI love how open this blog is. I think everyone should have the right to speak their mind. I don't think it matters if people are gay, bisexual, or straight. I believe people should be able to choose and not be judged on their decisions. Everybody is a beautiful person that should be appreciated no matter of their sexuality.
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